#7QT Still Friends?

I’m writing like a mad woman still, and getting ready for NaNoWriMo. If you’re doing it this year, let me know and buddy up! I’ll need all the pushing I can get not to scare myself out of finishing.

#7QT Still Friends? Wherein I chronicle the crazy, anxiety-riddled-madness that is life-without-my husband #anxiety #family #marriage #nanowrimo by @fillpraycloset

I will say this, all the work that I’ve been doing since August has just been hijacked by my antagonist. Now, his background story is what I’m focused on fleshing out. I wonder, does this mean that all the work I’ve done thus far was for naught? Nah, I am sure I can use the 10K+ words I’ve written already as a help when creating the new plot. What is wrong with me? I know, we ask this all the time.

I thought I would give some updates on all-the-things today, just because you can’t make this stuff up, but mostly because we’re friends.

— 1 —

Mike left for Poland on Tuesday. He’ll be gone for 9 days. I always make it seem like I’m fine and it’s no big deal, but when he’s at the door about to go, I start to cry. I know it’s totally silly, but he’s really my best friend. I mentioned to him a few days ago how we have our little sayings in both English and Spanish – not like lovey-doevey stuff, were talking funny stuff – taglines that we add when we find something particularly funny. Think adding Adobo to anything, instant awesome! That’s what our banter is like at home. Loving to laugh is only surpassed by loving to make each other laugh.

He got to Poland safe and sound and will attend mass at St. Mary Magdalene church for me on Saturday, take pictures and video of the short walk to the house St. Teresa Benedicta of the Cross stayed at when she visited her mother.

We just celebrated his birthday this weekend and he loved all of his gifts (dinner, a G1 Vintage Transformer – a Dinobot if you must know, tickets to our local Comic-Con, a Transformer T-shirt and a new Autobot Transformer – we had a theme – I also baked red velvet cupcakes!).

#7QT Still Friends? Wherein I chronicle the crazy, anxiety-riddled-madness that is life-without-my husband #anxiety #family #marriage #nanowrimo by @fillpraycloset

— 2 —

Just before Mike left, Gabriel got sick – as in, what the fever, oh my goodness, I am already paranoid and now it’s all in overdrive. So we took him to the doctor Monday. Diagnosis? Strep. Gabriel was excited. Excited? Yeah, it’s all about the “Bubble gum medicine” for him. True to his silly nature, he provided status updates via a makeshift thumb dashboard. All the way down was “feeling super horrible” to a thumbs up being “totally awesome and ready for gym class”. He had Monday and Tuesday off and now he’s back at school.

#7QT Still Friends? Wherein I chronicle the crazy, anxiety-riddled-madness that is life-without-my husband #anxiety #family #marriage #nanowrimo by @fillpraycloset

— 3 —

Last night, I had a lay Dominican meeting and brought the boys with me. It was pouring out so we left early enough to make up for the traffic that was expected. I am still presenting every month (next month and in December, I’ll present two modules at a time). We were stuck in such traffic that Gabriel had to go to the bathroom. What should have been a 15 minute drive, became a 45  minute crawl. I couldn’t pull over, so Alex and I were talking him through some very dry visualizations.

Alex: The desert, crackers, the sun, the beach!
Gabriel: NOOO! The ocean!
Me: The GPS says 4 more minutes
Alex: Let’s go back to the desert
Gabriel: No, the oasis!

Needless to say, we made it to the meeting, but were so early that the door was locked. No bathroom in sight. What’s a mother to do? I couldn’t leave and find someplace, traffic remember? I for sure, couldn’t have him relieve himself outside. Now we all know about my love of glasses of water. This also means I have bottles of it lying around in my car, unfinished. Not many, mind you, let’s not have that picture.

#7QT Still Friends? Wherein I chronicle the crazy, anxiety-riddled-madness that is life-without-my husband #anxiety #family #marriage #nanowrimo by @fillpraycloset

Think like 2 or 3. I took a deep breath and jumped in the back seat and had him “relieve himself” into the bottle. Purell for one and all as I dumped the contents, head facing away and eyes closed, at the curb. I know. I had to improvise because it was that, or a very wet, and embarrassed boy.

— 4 —

It’s just me, and just the boys. I love it. I get all the hugs, kisses and rough-housing I can stand. Our first night alone fell on an evening night mass! They only offer evening mass during the week on Tuedsday. The boys wanted to pray for their father and light a candle, we got there a little early to pray before the Blessed Sacrament too.

#7QT Still Friends? Wherein I chronicle the crazy, anxiety-riddled-madness that is life-without-my husband #anxiety #family #marriage #nanowrimo by @fillpraycloset

— 5 —

We set up camp in my bedroom and have sleep overs each night while he’s away. This means I also get all the snoring, so it’s like Mike is still home. 🙂

I’m not sleeping well. At all. When Mike is gone I am in charge. I know that sounds silly, but I rely on him to protect me, the boys and the house – because I’m a bit of a mess. Generally, we “shut it down” early. There’s a routine, we turn off the lights, we draw the blinds, he puts the last few dishes in the dishwasher and turns it on, wipes all the counters (see how much I don’t do?) and sets the alarm. I’m already upstairs at this point when he’s home, tucking the kids in. Well, Cristina the most anxious person this side of Pennsylvania, thought to herself last night what happens if I never wake up? How will Mike know? The kids need to know how to call him. 

Me: Gabriel, wanna play a game on Mommy’s phone?
Gabriel: We can’t play games during the week Mommy. It’s a school night.
Me: This is a special game.

And I proceed to teach Gabriel how to call Mike (on both his cell and his work phone – double points, Gabriel!) from my phone. Alex was already asleep, but he was given a recap session at breakfast. With a test immediately after. I know. Totally embarrassing.

— 6 —

It didn’t ease my anxiety. I was up in at 2AM wondering if a pain in my neck (that has been there for the past couple of weeks) could be something more than just a pressure point that my friend Cathie rationalized for me earlier in the day. Why be rational?! It’s 2AM, it’s dark, I’m alone, in charge of everything and it’s raining!! This meant that I had to test the theory to see if I was right. I searched for my neck heating pad and used it for 15 minutes a couple of times.

I texted Mike to let him know I couldn’t sleep and God bless the time difference, he was around to talk. I scurried to the boys room so I wouldn’t wake them. We talked about nothing, but he made me laugh about “something-something-something I need to chill”. I tiptoed back into my room and turned on my awesome sleep app. I drifted off at 4:30AM or so.

This morning, the pain has subsided significantly. Cathie – 1, Cristina’s Anxiety- zero (Always zero, actually)

— 7 —

Back up at 6AM! See, Mike usually takes care of the boys while I get ready, so when he’s gone, I have to get up an hour earlier than usual to get myself ready and then spend 7-8AM getting the kids ready. This isn’t so bad, but when you have a crazy night like I had, it’s a tough morning for all involved.

And that’s all the news that’s fit to print. Welcome to my world people! Still friends?

#7QT Still Friends? Wherein I chronicle the crazy, anxiety-riddled-madness that is life-without-my husband #anxiety #family #marriage #nanowrimo by @fillpraycloset
This is why I drink wine. Cheers!

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23 thoughts on “#7QT Still Friends?

  1. Still friends. Unless you try to get me into NaNo. Then not.

    Bottles are SO USEFUL! We’ve done that with Neff before. Sometimes ya gotta do what works.

    Glad your neck’s feeling a bit better, and you got blessed by TimeZoned 😀


  2. Whhhhyyyyyyy are you doing so much work before NaNoWriMo? I’m just doing research and outlining the plot. You appear to be writing already! (I am Sparki777 btw, if you want to buddy.)


    1. I thought that’s what outlining was, you know, get out the plot points, then write a synopsis, then character stuffs – all with 1 quazillion iterations, I have to tell you! I will find you! YAY! I just hope, and pray I can do this. :-/


  3. You had a busy week! I will never understand what is it about 2 am that makes everything seem so tragic. You deserve the wine! And I love your necklace, beautiful medals!


  4. I get totally irrationally paranoid as well. If my husband is more than 20 minutes late I automatically assume he was in an accident and that is why he isn’t answering his phone. Usually it is dead or he forgot to take it off mute from a meeting.

    When ever I want the kids to learn something I make it the password to which ever electronic device they are into. Address, our phone numbers, they have been passwords on the TV, the Kindle, tablet,etc.


    1. That’s such a great idea! Changing all the passcodes now!!!! And I’m not nearly as irrationally paranoid as my husband. After all these years he’s rubbed off on me! 🙂


  5. A lot of moms I know will regularly change the Wifi password and present a small list of chores to the kids in return for the new password! 😛

    That said, I’m considering participating in NaNoWriMo…haven’t decided if I’ll commit on the blog or just in pen to paper. How were your previous experiences with it?


  6. I love your 7 QT’s Cristina! I need a smile after NO SLEEP ahem ; ) I need some of your sense of humor so I don’t lose my mind.

    You are doing a great job with beautiful boys…Mike will be home before you know it.

    Have a blessed weekend!


  7. I’m totally paranoid about EVERYTHING when Chris is gone. Did I mention EVERYTHING? And the bathroom, call me a country bumpkin, but I wold have found a tree, bush, rock, something other than a water bottle.


  8. I love that your boys are so good about praying and following your example with religion as well! So sweet!

    Husband and I have the same kind of bantering relationship, and it warms my heart. When he leaves, which is usually pretty often, I have a hard time the first night or two sleeping. After awhile I’ve gotten used to it though, so now when he’s gone I just rock it. 🙂 Of course, I don’t have two kids to worry about at the same time.

    Are you going to post pictures from his Poland trip? that would be awesome!


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