Yes, I could have written about Yahweh, but I think you’d expect that from me. We all know how I like to keep you guessing. So, what the Yoke it is?!
Yesterday we talked about the very first Jesuit priest, St. Xavier. Did you know that Pope Francis is a Jesuit? Of course you did.
Tomorrow is the last day, my loves. I’m a little sad!
What is it?
A yoke is a wooden frame used to join two oxen together. When interpreted through the lens of the Church, we have yoke as in, “Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me; for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls” (Matthew 11:29) and more specifically today, “Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers.” (2 Corinthians 6:14)
Why did I choose to share this particular “Y” with you?
Doesn’t it seem like I am disobeying the Word (Bible)? I’m married to an atheist, after all. I have friends who are unbelievers. The Catechism (or Catholic play book, for you sports fans) of the Catholic Church expands on this as well:
Difference of confession between the spouses does not constitute an insurmountable obstacle for marriage, when they succeed in placing in common what they have received from their respective communities, and learn from each other the way in which each lives in fidelity to Christ. But the difficulties of mixed marriages must not be underestimated. They arise from the fact that the separation of Christians has not yet been overcome. The spouses risk experiencing the tragedy of Christian disunity even in the heart of their own home. Disparity of cult can further aggravate these difficulties. Differences about faith and the very notion of marriage, but also different religious mentalities, can become sources of tension in marriage, especially as regards the education of children. The temptation to religious indifference can then arise. Source: (CCC 1634)
This doesn’t mean that it can’t be done. There will be difficulty, arguments and broken utensils. But ultimately, I think it’s the Catholic person, or the person of faith to step back and refrain from preaching to their spouse. I did little things, I emulate St. Therese of Lisieux (also known as St. Therese of the Little Way). This saint opted to serve the Lord in ways that were so small no one would see it. She refused to share her suffering with anyone and in that way, she was showing love.
It is precisely this self-conquest, for it is nothing less than self-conquest, in little things which the world never realizes, which is the real secret of sanctity in great things.
I stopped arguing, stopped trying to make him see that I was still the same woman he married, fell in love with and had children with. I live in and with my unequally yoked marriage. I’ve learned that his spiritual journey is never something I can control or even plot on a map to see how far he is to a destination (wherever that is). I can just love him, the way God loves me and I Him; unconditionally, unreservedly and with deep faith that if He willed it, I’m meant to live it.
I’m not entirely done on this subject. Readers have asked me specifically what I do to “make my unequally yoked marriage work”. That post is coming. SOON!
Come back tomorrow to read all about my Catholic take on the final letter, Z. I am blogging my way through the alphabet with others who are doing the same.
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